Okat, I'm 18 and live in Long Island, NY. my boyfriend is in the marines and he was out here for a little vacation, but i couldn't tell my parents that we were spending the weekend together, so instead, i told her that a bunch of friends and i were spending the weekend in the city, but in a hotel out in long island. Well, I got 3 traffic tickets for speeding and HOV and lane violations, out in Queens, by the city, with my boyfriend. Will she find out who I was with in court? because we are fighting the tickets, because they aren't entirely true. So should I come clean now and tell her what really happened, or should I just keep going on with my lie? I know that if she finds out, she will take away my car, and I probably won't be able to continue seeing my boyfriend, atleast not as easily. So should I tell her or just wait and see what happens?
Also, what's going to happen in court?
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Just tell her and get it over with
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Well since you got the tickets in Queens, you will be going to the Traffic Violations Bureau out there. That is not a good thing because 1. They are harder to deal with 2. Their threshold for finding you guilty is "Clear and Convincing Evidence", which is a lower standard vs. "Beyond a reasonable doubt" that courts elsewhere in NY state have to follow. You might want to get one of those lawyers who will charge half the price of what the tickets will be. You can do a search on Internet or use the yellow pages for them. If you choose not to get a lawyer, you will be offered a plea bargain, but it might not be that great, but better if you just pleaded guilty. Oh yeah, the NY DMV will also charge you money every year if you have over 6 points on your liscense each year, so also be aware of that. Points stay on your liscense for 18 months. Also you will be getting mail from the traffic violations bureau sent to your house, so if your mom sees that she's going to probably figure out your ticket.
Edit: No, unless your mom questions you to as why you were pulled over in queens.
If you are 18, it's time to stand on your two adult feet. You are not a minor, so your mother won't have to go to court with you. She won't find out the details unless she follows you to court and sees for herself or someone else tells her.
As for you lying to your mother, I assume you are doing this because you still live at home? If you cannot agree to behave consistently with your mother's values and you can no longer give her the respect of being truthful with her, then get your own place where you can do what you like and not have to lie to your mother or tell her a thing.
Worst of all is trying to hide the tickets and the circumstances from her, if she is the owner of this car. She has every right to know if you are jeopardizing the car and the safety of others by recklessly operating this vehicle. If she owns the car, tell her the truth.
3 tickets in one weekend, one for speeding? I hope you have a very good lawyer.
